Dan Rockwell provides five simple rules that help a listener disengage from their own head and agenda in order to hear and understand what others are saying with respect.
I’m putting it here because its important to think and remember these.

5 simple rules for the day:

#1. Don’t interrupt.
Listening is hard work for you, but it feels like respect to others.
Many leadership struggles vanish when people feel heard. Every time you interrupt someone you make leadership more difficult.

#2. Don’t finish sentences for others.
Smart people need patience to listen. You know what someone is going to say before they say it. Or at least you think you do.
You don’t look smart when you finish someone’s sentences. You actually seem disinterested and impatient.

#3. Ask a question before you make a statement.
Change the reason you listen. Most listen to respond. Listen to ask a question that moves the conversation forward.
Gentle curiosity proves you’re interested in people. When you’re interested in others you become interesting to others.
Listening to ask a question forces you to pay attention.
Curiosity is a platform for powerful responses.

#4. Confirm you understand by summarizing and restating.
Do things that help people feel heard. When people feel heard they feel…
Respected.
Understood.
Supported.
Motivated.
People feel good about themselves AND you when you pay attention. You seem smart when people feel you hear them.

#5. Smile, breathe, and notice the person standing in front of you.
Emotions are contagious. When you relax the people around you tend to relax.

Tip: Introverts look way too serious when they think. Try to lighten up a bit. Perhaps smile once in awhile. Nod. Raise your eyebrows.

Warning: A listener who is too relaxed seems disinterested and overconfident.

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Seventy Times Seven is not an comfortable book to read or process.
It is written in such a way that it is very readable, and yet there are times when stopping and simply processing its content seems necessary.

The broad subject matter is the effort to curtail the use of capital punishment on those who committed crimes as minors in the USA in the period the 1980s and thereafter.
The focus narrows as the story of the murder of Ruth Pelke by four teenage girls, among them 15 year old Paula Cooper, is recounted. After Cooper receives her death sentence Bill Pelke, a grandson experiences a spiritual experience and resolves to forgive Paula and then enters into the movement that seeks to see her sentence changed to custody, and, more broadly revoke the use of the death penalty.
The book was researched and authored well after the crime and all legal process, and contains a record of those who committed years and decades to this advocacy.
Of particular interest are those who are family members of murder victims who oppose the death penalty.

The author, Alex Mar, states that she is not a Christian.

It is an insightful record, particularly of the cost that the application of an individual’s application of their Christian moral ethic can send them to the margins (and beyond) of their family, social, and Christian communities.

The unique aspects of US culture do stand out, but any temptation to use those as means to distance the matters at the heart of the story in a way that deflects personal introspection should be resisted.

The book evokes thoughts and feelings that defy rapid evaluation.
Rather, for me, it simply asks how we process Jesus’ declarations about forgiveness (and his own example of forgiveness) and how his disciples put them to effect, and how we pay the cost that arises when we do.

I don’t think there’s a happy ending.
But it is a worthwhile ending.

Grace Will Prevail is another track from The Wood Drake Sessions.
It features Wendell Kimbrough on vocals, another familiar favourite.

The lyrics:
1
Grace will prevail
Though the darkness is strong
And the burden weighs heavy and long
Grace will prevail
For our God is the light
Rending the cover of night
Grace will prevail
2
Grace will prevail
In the valleys of shame
Where the echoes of failure remain
Grace will prevail
With a cry to the Lord
There’s a mountain of mercy in store
Grace will prevail
Chorus
Wait for the Lord our God
Wait for the Lord our God
Wait for the Lord
Our rest and reward and our peace
3
Grace will prevail
Through the wreckage and storm
And the brokenness washed on the shore
Grace will prevail
Though an ocean we cry
He is with us and weeps by our side
Till the day they forever run dry
Bridge
Take heart he has overcome the world
He has overcome
Repeat a few times
Chorus
Repeat Chorus

Words and Music: Paul Ranheim and Kirk Sauers.
© 2020 Mellow Toad Music (BMI) and Bold Canary Music (BMI)

Heidelberg Catechism – Lord’s Day 44

113.
Q. What is required in the tenth commandment?
A. That there should never enter our heart even the least inclination or thought contrary to any commandment of God, but that we should always hate sin with our whole heart and find satisfaction and joy in all righteousness.

114.
Q. But can those who are converted to God keep these commandments perfectly?
A. No, for even the holiest of them make only a small beginning in obedience in this life. Nevertheless, they begin with serious purpose to conform not only to some, but to all the commandments of God.

115.
Q. Why, then, does God have the ten commandments preached so strictly since no one can keep them in this life?
A. First, that all our life long we may become increasingly aware of our sinfulness, and therefore more eagerly seek forgiveness of sins and righteousness in Christ. Second, that we may constantly and diligently pray to God for the grace of the Holy Spirit, so that more and more we may be renewed in the image of God, until we attain the goal of full perfection after this life.