A discomforting point of clarity from J.D. Vance’s Hillbilly Elegy.
Vance’s complex and ongoing relationship with his mother had been marred by her addictions and psychological disfunction.
As an adult in his own relationships he was noting a tendency.
And it caused him great fear.
…I’d scream and I’d yell. I’d do all of the hateful things that my mother had done. And then I’d feel guilty and desperately afraid. For so much of my life, I’d made Mom out to be a kind of villain. And now I was acting like her. Nothing compares to the fear that you’re becoming the monster in your closet.
Hillbilly Elegy; J.D. Vance; William Collins, London; pg 224.