Some things can’t be overcome or recovered from.
Which runs counter to the preferred narrative of a victorious Christian life, or even the more general desire that a situation is returning to normal.
There are situations that are never overcome; events from which we never recover.
Instead the best outcome is that our lives incorporate whatever that reality is as we go on.
There’s nothing to do. There will be no change. So we cope.
And in some situations that’s all there is.
It may look like we’ve won or recovered; and that is the narrative that the world would prefer for its own sense of comfort and alleviated awkwardness, but, in reality, it’s coping.

And I know now about helplessness – of what to do when there is nothing to do. I have learned coping. We live in a time and place where, over and over, when confronted with something unpleasant we pursue not coping but overcoming. Often we succeed. Most of humanity has not enjoyed and does not enjoy such luxury. Death shatters our illusion that we can make do without coping.

Nicholas Wolterstorff, Lament For A Son, Spire 1989, pg. 72

2 thoughts on “Living With That Which Cannot Be Overcome Or Recovered From, But Can Only Be Coped With (via Lament For A Son by Nicholas Wolterstorff)

  1. Bec Stewart says:

    𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗵𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗧𝗼 𝗣𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗲
    a poem by Paul Tripp

    Before me
    is a pathway
    I do not know.
    Before me
    are valleys
    I do not know.
    Before me
    are mountains peaks
    I do not know.
    Before me
    are rivers
    I do not know.
    Before me
    is darkness
    I do not know.
    Before me
    are broken places
    I do not know.
    Before me
    are temptations
    I do not know.
    Before me
    are trials
    I do not know.
    Before me
    are glories
    I do not know.
    Before me
    are mysteries
    I do not know.

    What lies before me
    I do not need to know,
    because you go
    before me.
    You know
    what lies ahead.
    You have already
    given me
    everything I need
    for everything
    that lies ahead
    that I do not know.

    One thing I do know,
    when I walk
    that pathway,
    I do not walk alone.
    You are ahead
    of me,
    You are behind
    me,
    and You are
    with me.

    I am blessed
    to be at rest
    with what
    I do not know

    1. Gary Ware says:

      “I am blessed
      to be at rest
      with what
      I do not know”
      yeah,,, ‘at rest’, because of the presence.

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