Simone Richardson writes about an unhelpful tendency to mistake situations where forgiveness is extended when what should be properly offered is forbearance.
Forgiveness is what’s needed when God’s standards are breached.
Forbearance has more to do with when it’s our standards that are not being met.
From the article.
Forbearance is what is needed when we are confronted with the frailties of another human being: their annoying mannerisms, their forgetfulness, their inability to say the right thing in a certain situation, their incompetence at tasks we feel they ought to be able to manage, their frustrating messiness, the way that they do not live up to my standards. In these situations, we need to stop forgiving and start forbearing.
For many of the frustrations that we experience with our spouses, friends and colleagues are not directly caused by sin on their part. Often we think that they can do better, or ought to be able to do better if they tried, but forbearance remembers that they, like us, are human. Weakness is built into the core of our being.
Read the whole post at the Gospel Coalition Australia.