A good point from Blog and Mablog, which is relevant to my previous post.
“No one can go into a marriage relationship to find out what it would be like to be married to this person without being married to them already. This means that with the scriptural system of courtship, the commitment comes first, and true intimate knowledge of the spouse comes second”
(Her Hand in Marriage, p. 89).
Part of the contemporary desire to ‘trial’ marriage before actually entering into marriage is for us to have personal control of the resulting relationship, rather than having to commit both of ourselves in humility to God in order to grow a healthy marriage.
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