One of the first things I learned in pastoral life is that parents always worry about their children.
Even when those children are older than me.
We’ve got a lot of families at mgpc who are traveling through demanding seasons parenting small children.
One of my aspirations for mgpc is that those parents will see us as a place of support and encouragement, not another demand and drain on their frazzled sensitivities.
Jean Williams posts a wonderful piece at The Briefing on parenting when children are chronically ill.
I wouldn’t be surprised to see it turn up in our church newsletter at some stage.
What attitude shall I bring to my children’s suffering? How shall I regard it? After long weeks of sickness, I’m tempted to complain to God and give in to despair. Why me? Why another child? Wasn’t one child with a long-term illness enough? Weren’t two? (I have a third child with ongoing health issues that I haven’t written about here.) In the back of my mind, I’m thankful that God has preserved us, so far, from the terrible suffering that many parents go through – a still-born baby, a child with leukemia, a disabled teenager – but in the forefront of my mind I’m confused, lost and desolate. Yet God is teaching me and my children so many things through these afflictions.
I learn not to expect perfection.
I learn patience.
I learn to care.
I learn to pray.
I learn trust.
I can live with this uncertainty.
I learn to teach my children.